Everything Sucks, Now What? A Merriment Method for a Messy World.

Doomscrolling Is Making You Poor: 5 Ways You're Going Broke Without Touching Your Bank Account

You're tracking your spending. You're watching your account. But there's another currency you're hemorrhaging every single day ... and nobody taught you how to budget it.

Your attention.

In this episode, we get into why doomscrolling isn't just a bad habit... it's actually making you poor. We talk about the real cost of cynicism, why money is just a personality amplifier (scary thought, right?), and the uncomfortable truth about why getting resourced is one of the most generous things you can do.

Plus: the courtroom case for why money is not the root of all evil, where you're leaving potential on the table that has nothing to do with finances, and how to start spending your mental currency on purpose.

Your attention compounds. The question is what you're growing with it.

Bonus pack for Positive Pulse members includes a mental money audit, 3-day doomscroll reset challenge, and a rewiring script.

You Don't Actually Want Money - You Want What (You Think) It Buys

You Don't Actually Want Money. (Sorry. Kind of.)

Yeah, we're going there.

This episode is going to annoy you a little .. fair warning. Because we're not talking about how to make more money. We're talking about why you even want it in the first place. And the answer is probably not what you think.

Spoiler: it's not money. It's almost never actually money.

We do a whole thought experiment about a stand-up comedian that will make you question every financial goal you've ever had. We talk about why entrepreneurs lie to themselves (lovingly). We drag the "do what you love" quote out back and examine it in broad daylight. And we get into the deeply uncomfortable truth that some of your money beliefs were handed to you by a parent, a commercial, or some guy's dad .. and you've just been carrying them around ever since like they're facts.

We cover:

• What you actually want when you say you want money (hint: it's on a list and it includes "revenge")
• Why making your passion pay you can slowly ruin it
• The difference between wanting money and wanting choice (not the same!!)
• How to stop outsourcing your worth to your salary
• Rewiring the money stories that were never even yours to begin with

This one's part therapy, part philosophy, part "wait have I just been chasing a symbol this whole time??"

The answer might be yes. But the substance? Closer than you think.

Next time we're talking about The Financial Thermostat a.k.a. why you sabotage yourself right when things start going well. Fun stuff!!

Conscious Luck: 8 Ways to Become a Very Lucky Person (On Purpose)

Are some people just lucky... or are they paying attention in ways the rest of us aren't?

I've been thinking about this for a while ... and I noticed something. The "lucky" people in my life aren't just stumbling into good things. They're doing something different. I call it conscious luck.

In this one, I break down 8 ways to actually become a lucky person. Not through "wishful thinking", but through attention, behavior, and a willingness to get out of your own way. (Also featuring a suspicious number of raffle wins.)

You'll walk away thinking differently about gratitude, bold action, self-sabotage, and what it even means to "catch a break."

If that sounds like your kind of rabbit hole ... come on in.

If I Created This, I Can Destroy It: 4 Ways to Feel Empowered Without Denying Your Trauma

Radical responsibility is often explained in a way that sounds like blame. Like every painful thing that has ever happened to you must somehow be your fault in order for you to reclaim your power.

That interpretation does not feel safe. And for many of us, it does not feel true.

In this episode, we untangle that misunderstanding and offer a more compassionate, agency-centered perspective. One that allows you to acknowledge real harm, trauma, and unfairness while still reclaiming your ability to shape what happens next.

We explore:

• Why radical responsibility is about agency, not blame
• How to hold “this hurt me” and “I still have power” at the same time
• What it actually means to be “delusional on purpose” when shifting beliefs
• How aligning your actions with your desired identity reduces inner conflict
• A more nuanced version of gratitude that allows you to want more without guilt
• Why focusing your impact on one lane creates deeper change in the world

If you have ever rejected personal development language because it felt invalidating to your lived experiences, this episode offers a reframing that honors both truth and growth.

You were not responsible for the crash. But you still get to decide what happens after.

Inside Positive Pulse, you’ll find companion affirmations, prompts, and integration practices to help you reclaim agency without denying your trauma.

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You have to feel good to do good.

Did I Just Find the Exit From Patriarchy?! What Women Can Do to Dismantle Patriarchy Without Starting a Gender War

A furious essay kicked off this episode. It was moving, blistering, and full of big claims about patriarchy, biology, “the secondary sex,” and how fast humans have managed to speedrun catastrophe once domination became the operating system.

So I’m doing something specific here. I’m honoring the rage. I’m keeping what’s accurate and important. And I’m gently but firmly correcting what’s exaggerated or scientifically shaky, because if we want real cultural change, precision is power.

In this long-form episode, I introduce a simple framework that changes how you hear the whole conversation:

Patriarchy is a ladder. Matriarchal logic is a circle.
Not men vs women. Not flipping the hierarchy and calling it healing. Systems. Architecture. Power flow. Care. Accountability.

We walk through:

• what the essay gets right (and why that matters)

• where it overreaches (and how to critique without gender essentialism)

• how patriarchy actually emerged historically (surplus, inheritance, early states, organized violence)

• what matrilineal and matrifocal societies really look like

• why Nordic countries often feel “more circle” inside modern institutions

• the micro level: how to build circles in your home, friendships, and community

• the macro level: what to advocate for in the U.S. if you want care-centered outcomes

• language that builds bridges instead of creating more division

• what men can unlearn, what women can unlearn, and what a realistic hybrid system looks like

This is Merriment Making work because merriment isn’t fluff. Joy is a systems outcome. Nervous systems don’t open under domination. They open under care.

Bonuses in Positive Pulse:
I dropped a companion bundle inside Positive Pulse to help you integrate the episode, including reflection questions, a “One Circle” 7-day micro challenge, language upgrades (copy/paste phrases), key takeaways, Merriment Maker affirmations, and shareable pull quotes.

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If You’re About to Give Up on Your Goals, Try These 9 Things First

By February, most people assume they’ve already failed their goals.

The routines didn’t stick.
The motivation dipped.
January didn’t turn them into a new person.

In this episode, I want to slow that story down.

Instead of asking why you’re “falling behind,” we talk about how goals actually integrate into real lives. Gradually. Imperfectly. In layers.

I share:

• why January isn’t a deadline, it’s a warm-up

• how to stop expecting overnight change

• what “showing up” actually counts as

• why doing half of your routine is not failure

• how to stack habits into containers that already exist

• how to use what you skip as information instead of evidence against you

• why big goals need tiny, daily anchors

• how seasonal focus makes long-term change sustainable

• how to give yourself more than one “new me” moment per year

This is an episode for anyone who made a long list of goals, meant well, and then felt overwhelmed by how fast everything was supposed to happen.

You’re not late.
You’re building capacity.

If January didn’t go the way you imagined, nothing is wrong.
This episode is here to help you keep going… without burning out.

You have to feel good to do good. 💛

 

Free Companion Bonuses inside Positive Pulse

To support this episode, I’ve added a set of ready-to-use bonuses inside Positive Pulse, my gentle support space for orientation, momentum, and real-life integration.

Inside, you’ll find:

• recap guidelines you can return to when goals feel heavy

• seasonal and monthly check-in ideas

• affirmations and quotes to interrupt goal shame

• journaling prompts for clarity and self-trust

• a gentle 7-day “keep going” challenge

• temporal marker ideas beyond New Year’s

• and a simple overview of the Merriment Method, adapted for goals

Positive Pulse is free to join for the first week, and then just 89 cents to stay. No pressure. No perfection required.

You can join anytime and explore what’s helpful at
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If January didn’t go the way you imagined, nothing is wrong.
This episode is here to help you keep going… without burning out.

You have to feel good to do good. 💛

Looking Back On 2016

There's a trend on making a carousel on Instagram to look back at 2016.

But I took it further and I'm walking you through the carousel and my entire year, giving you full context to what that year was like.

Including the goals I set for that year, whether I accomplished them, my top 5 lists for that year, the biggest things that were helpful for me and my biggest struggles, and how I feel like 2016 is a good parallel for what's happening for me in 2026.

The good, bad, and ugly.

“Are You Okay?” - You Don’t Owe the Room a Mood: How To Check In Without Making Others Feel Wrong

We often ask “Are you okay?” with good intentions. But when that question is asked publicly, quickly, or without context, it can feel like pressure. It can make someone feel like their face, mood, or energy is a problem to solve.

In this episode, Mary explores:

• how concern can unintentionally turn into projection
• why people learn to mask in social spaces
• how to check in with care without making others feel wrong for existing as they are.

You’ll hear alternative ways to offer support, language you can borrow on both the giving and receiving end, and permission to show up without performing emotional consistency.

This is a resource for anyone who wants more humane, spacious, and emotionally intelligent connections.

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Fuck Meditation, Rage The Page Instead: 98 Ways To Use AI To Turn Your Feelings Into Tools

We talk a lot about "sitting" with feelings. Meditating on them. Quietly observing them.

But what if that's not the most effective way for YOU to process your feelings?

In this episode I share:

+ how I actually process emotions, ideas, grief, decisions, and inspiration in real life (without meditation)

+ why I dislike meditation and why it doesn't work for everyone

+ alternative ways for processing emotions, such as raging the page

+ how to use AI to turn your emotions into tools you can actually use

 

If you’ve ever felt like you were doing personal development "wrong" because you can’t sit still, this episode is for you.

 

If you want to go deeper with this, come join us in the Positive Pulse for a colorful, anti-beige community. As a bonus for this episode, I'm including 98 specific ideas for HOW to use AI to make tools that work for you. Plus rage-the-page prompts, an EFT script, affirmations that don’t feel fake, and playful challenges you can actually use when something’s alive in you, and a lot more.

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The Best, Most Unexpected Way To Set Goals This Year: A 4-Step Thought Experiment About Time, Priorities, and Real Life

What if you planned the year assuming time was real?

In this episode, I share a simple 4-step thought experiment I’m using instead of traditional New Year’s resolutions. It’s not about quitting your life, chasing a fantasy, or “making the most of every second.” It’s about clarity.

The question is simple:
What if you only had a year left to live, BUT your life stayed the same?

You still have work. You still have obligations. You still have routines. The only thing that changes is your awareness of time.

We talk about why mortality awareness can actually make life calmer and more aligned, how perspective shifts priorities without panic, and how to use this lens to decide what deserves your energy this year.

If goal-setting has felt stale, forced, or slightly dishonest lately, this is a grounded alternative you can actually try.